What labels would you use to describe your sexuality, and what do they mean to you?
First of all, I’m a girl who likes guys, so I guess you can consider me heteromantic. I’m still not entirely sure where I fit on the sexual spectrum, so for now I just use the broader term “asexual”. There have been times when I have been completely repulsed by sex, and other times when I thought I might be open to the idea. I guess in that sense I fluctuate between apothisexual and cupiosexual. However, I find the subcategories of the sexual spectrum to be somewhat awkward and clunky to use, so I prefer not to for the most part.
How did you find out that you were asexual, and how do you feel about it?
I’ve opened up a little bit about my story here, but I have to warn you that some of it is quite dark. I first considered that I might be asexual at the age of eighteen when I got into my first relationship. However, my partner tried very hard to convince me that I was wrong, which really pushed me into a state of denial. I didn’t revisit the idea until a few years later when outside circumstances literally forced me to re-evaluate my stance on relationships. It’s only within the past year that I’ve really come to love myself and my sexuality.
Have you “come out” to any other people in your life? Why or why not?
Although I lost a few friends in the beginning, I realise those people were never really my friends to begin with. Out of the few people I’ve lost, I’ve gained so much more. The friends who have stuck by me are the ones who will support me through anything, which are the types of people who are just great to be around. Despite everything, I think this whole experience has actually brought us closer together.
How has that changed the way you view the world and/or interact with others?
I never really understood how much of an impact sexuality has on our friendships and relationships until I came to terms with my own. It’s really changed my outlook on life, allowing me to better understand myself and the people around me. Because of that, I’ve also managed to make loads of new friends who I never would have met otherwise. There have definitely been a few challenges along the way, but I truly believe that I’ve come out the other side all the better for it.
Now I am happier than ever, working to help other people come to accept themselves and raising awareness for the asexual community. So feel free to follow along if you’d like to hear more!
Asexual representation is incredibly lacking, not just in media but also online. I believe that asexuality is one of the most underrepresented minority groups in the world. Which is a real shame because I also think they are some of the most amazing people in the world! Because of this,…Keep reading…