The Sexual Spectrum

There are four main categories on the sexual spectrum which are: asexual, graysexual, fluidsexual, and allosexual. You might recognise the spades symbol having been adopted by the ace community. But actually, the four suits are a perfect representation of the four categories. These can further be divided into various subcategories which I will explain in more detail. If you replace the term “sexual” with “romantic”, then you can also find the romantic definitions of the terms. You may identify with any number of these categories, or you may still be deciding. Either way, I hope this guide will help you on your journey to understanding yourself and your sexuality!

♠ Asexual: Someone who does not experience sexual attraction towards any gender.

  • Cupiosexual: Someone who does not experience sexual attraction, but still wants to have sex. They may enjoy the physical act, despite not feeling attraction towards their partner.
  • Apothisexual: Someone who does not experience sexual attraction, and is also repulsed by sex. They may feel uncomfortable discussing sex or seeing sexual scenes on television.

Graysexual: Someone who only experiences sexual attraction in certain circumstances. These people could identify as either asexual or allosexual.

  • Demisexual: Someone who does not experience sexual attraction unless they have a deep bond with someone. They may only feel sexual attraction towards their current partner.
  • Reciprosexual: Someone who only experience sexual attraction towards people who are attracted to them. They may develop attraction if the other person expresses interest.
  • Iamvanosexual: Someone who does not desire to perform sexual acts, but desires to receive them. They may identify as being “submissive”.
  • Fraysexual: Someone who only experiences sexual attraction towards people who they do not know personally. They may lose interest after getting to know someone on a deeper level.
  • Akoisexual: Someone who only experiences sexual attraction towards people who are not sexually attracted to them. They may lose interest if the other person expresses interest.
  • Placiosexual: Someone who desires to perform sexual acts, but does not desire to receive them. They may identify as being “dominant”.

Fluidsexual: Someone whose sexuality fluctuates between asexual and allosexual; also known as aceflux.

  • Idemsexual: Someone who cannot differentiate between sexual and platonic attraction.
  • Quoisexual: Someone who cannot tell when they experience sexual attraction or whom they are attracted to.
  • Aegosexual: Someone who experiences a disconnection between themselves and the person they are attracted to. They may experience sexual attraction when watching or imagining someone having sex with another person, but cannot imagine having sex themselves.
  • Arosexual: Someone who cannot feel sexual and romantic attraction at the same time.
  • Abrosexual: Someone whose sexuality is constantly changing. These people could identify as being sexually fluid.
  • Novisexual: Someone whose sexuality fluctuates in a manner that is completely unique. They may experience sexual attraction only under specific circumstances not covered by any other categories. For example, people with a specific fetish might fall into this category.

Allosexual: Someone who experiences sexual attraction.

  • Heterosexual: Someone who experiences sexual attraction towards the opposite gender only.
  • Bisexual: Someone who experiences sexual attraction to multiple genders. They may also have a gender preference.
  • Sapiosexual: Someone who experiences sexual attraction to intelligence, regardless of looks or gender.
  • Autosexual: Someone who experiences sexual attraction to themselves but not towards others.
  • Homosexual: Someone who experiences sexual attraction towards the same gender only.
  • Pansexual: Someone who experiences sexual attraction to all genders, including people who do not have a set gender.
  • Skoliosexual: Someone who experiences sexual attraction towards non-binary genders only.
  • Pomosexual: Someone who experiences sexual attraction but does not identify with any other sexual labels.